“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Ephesians 5:21
Dancing is a funny thing when you are in Junior High. Really, what is more painful and hilarious than watching a bunch of pubescent kids trying to be cool? Just think about these few things that occurred:
- You only dance during slow songs because you are terrified of looking like an idiot in front of your friends or that special one you had your eye on (except for that one crazy kid who didn’t care and would bust out all of his groovy disco moves; now I realize how cool he was).
- When that slow song did come on you kept telling yourself, “DO NOT STEP ON THE TOES!” while awkwardly shuffling in one spot.
- Body odor.
- Where do I put my hands?
Here is what I am getting at, marriage can often feel like that Junior High dance. It can often be awkward. You try not to step on each other’s toes, but often do. You discover your partner’s cleanliness is not the same as yours. You also find out that your body is a perfect place to warm cold as ice hands. The thing that could change everything for everyone is that they just learn how to dance.
Full disclosure, there isn’t anyone noting my skills and you aren’t going to see me bust out any awe inspiring moves. I also say that because when it comes to marriage, I was not the best dance partner. A lot of time has been spent searching myself to find rhythm. Figuring out what tune God was playing so that I would be a better dance partner is a priority. I am a work in progress.
I am becoming a better dancer.
There is a passage that a lot of people refer to in church in regards to marriage. The passage is in Ephesians 5 and it has much to say about how the wife and husband are to interact. You may even run across a popular marriage book on these verses. For this post though, I wanted to take a moment to hone in on the first verse of this section starting at verse 21. It reads, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” To me, this is like dancing. When two people engage in the dance, you find them cooperating with the music. They are engaged with the beat, moving and flowing together in a beautiful way.
God loves to play songs that draw people together.
In a strong relationship there are two people that have learned to hear DJ Yahweh’s beat. They can move with each other while following the tune that plays over them. The best of dancers are seen when each person doesn’t make it about themselves. They make it just about “us.” Mutual submission. The devine dance of marriage is waiting for you to allow the music to move you and for you and your partner to follow together. As you grow, you will be less like the Junior High dance and more like the dancers who have mastered the Tango. Trust the guy that has stepped on a lot of toes, you can always learn.